Choice Upgrade: Observing Your Mind over Listening to It

If you would like to meet your “best friend” sit in complete silence and solitude. But instead of finding silence you’re going to listen to incessant mental chatter that hypnotizes you back and forth as your dialogue jumps from one subject to the next within seconds. This dialogue will seem so neurotic you won’t believe it’s always this way, but it is!

Imagine your inner mental conversation best friend talking to you on the outside. Imagine that voice in your head is another person sitting next to you on the couch while you watch TV.

“Hey, I want something to eat. Pizza. No, it has too many carbs. I want it. It’s too far to drive. Let’s deliver it. That’s too much money.” “Why am I doing this? Have I more important things to do? I need to loose 10lbs. What time is the football game on. I need to pay the credit card bill”.

If this was truly a friend of yours after seeing how often they changed their mind, how conflicted they were on so many subjections and how over reactive emotionally they tended to be would you ever really want to hang out with them? However, that’s not the case with your inner voice as there is almost nothing it says that you don’t pay full attention to. You have tremendous respect for your maniac mental voice. The most important step you can take is to get wise to the predicament you are in.

Yet how many times has your inner voice been wrong? If this was a real person or financial consultant would you ever retain that person or would you fire them for so many mistakes?

In case you have not noticed you have a mental dialogue going on inside your head. The voice takes on both sides of the conversation. It’s you who’s talking and you who is listening. Your mind is just trying to find a comfortable resting place. It’s actually a shocking realization when you first notice that your mind is constantly talking. If you pay attention these mental patterns will become obvious to you.

When you become overly anxious the voice becomes extremely active. What you are experiencing is a presentation of the world according to you as opposed to the unfiltered experience of what is really happening. Your consciousness is actually experiencing your mental model of reality, not reality itself.

The only way to get your distance from this voice is to stop differentiating what it’s saying. Stop feeling that one thing it says is you and the other thing is not. Anytime you do believe what your mind is saying is you’ve lost your objectivity. The alternative is to spend your entire day trying to figure out which of the many viewpoints is actually you. The truth is most of life will unfold in accordance with forces outside of your mind.

The mind is very melodramatic. Just decide that no matter what the mind says, you aren’t getting involved. You don’t fight the mind. In fact, you don’t even try to change it. You just make a game out of relaxing in the face of its melodrama. You will break the habit, the constant draw of the lower self.

You can look deep within yourself, to the core of your being and decide that you don’t want the weakest part of you running your life.

Your psychological well-being is what you are pre-occupied with 24/7. Constant chatter on things like, “ what if I get put on the spot? What should I say? I get so nervous. I’m not prepared. That constant, anxious inner talk is a form of suffering. You are constantly thinking how to protect your psyche. Imagine if your body were sick – you’d be constantly thinking about how to protect your body. To end suffering you first must realize that your psyche is not okay. Your mind is too active with incessant neurotic thoughts. Your relationship with your psyche is like an addiction and can be compared to being addicted to drugs. Stop giving your mind the impossible task of fixing you. Do not fight your mind. You will never win. Just be quiet and do not participate in your mind’s chatter. Just relax since you are the observer of the mind and not the mind itself. We truly make the mistake that we are our mind. We are no more our mind than we are a tree which sits independently in the woods. Once you get good at watching your thoughts you have learned how to control it. Fall behind the noise of your mind as it constantly tries to figure everything out. The only action you take is to relax and release – like a meditation that is happening in real time all day long. Get quiet enough so it’s not so reactive in there. Now what’s holding you back is helping you move forward.

Michael A Singer:

Ascent Habit Practice: Observe your constant chatter in your mind. To be aware that you are watching the voice talk is to stand on the threshold of a fantastic journey and will become a launching pad for spiritual growth.